Relationship Coaching for Couples

   Are you seeking fulfillment in your Life Partnership?
  Committed relationships are unique, complex, and touch our deepest   vulnerabilities.

  We learn to be committed couples through our experience. Unfortunately, the preparation   necessary to help us prevent mistakes and painful periods is usually not available. Most   couples seek support for their relationship only after much struggle and hurt has already   occurred.

  A successful life partnership requires our mutual commitment to take   responsibility for what we want, and to learn the skills and intricacies of   intimacy so we are able to get what we want.

   Coach Ryeal will help you overcome the hurts and   barriers in your relationship so you can develop a truly   fulfilling life partnership.

Coach Ryeal will help you :

Discover what you're requirements, needs, and wants are to seek a strong healthy relationship
Understand how a successful relationship actually works
Learn to identify your needs and get them met
Build effective relationship skills
Experience the love, intimacy, and connection that you desire
Succeed in creating the fulfilling life partnership that you both want

The coaching relationship is unique and powerful, and really can help you find fulfillment in your life and relationships. Below are some important reasons to use a Relationship Coach. Any ONE of which is compelling enough to get your very own coach TODAY.

YOU VALUE RELATIONSHIPS HIGHLY
You prioritize building fulfilling personal and professional relationships. You realize that your success and quality of life is directly connected to the quality of your relationships.
YOU ARE COMMITTED TO SUCCESS
You are serious and intentional about having a fulfilling life partnership, family, business, and community.
YOU WANT RESULTS
Working with a coach can move you farther and faster than you can on your own.
YOU ARE WILLING TO LEARN
You realize that you don’t know what you don’t know, and your future success may depend upon access to new relationships skills and knowledge.
YOU ARE READY FOR ACTION
Using a coach can be the most effective means of translating knowledge into practice. One of the most indispensable roles of a coach is to help you use what you already know to make effective choices and take the actions necessary to be successful.
YOU ARE OPEN TO MENTORING/SUPPORT
A Relationship Coach helps you to use your relationships to evolve and develop relationship skills critical to your business success and personal fulfillment. The process of self-discovery, learning about relationships, and how to make successful relationship choices cannot be effectively self-taught or obtained from a book or tape.
YOU WANT FULFILLMENT
You do not want to settle for less or risk preventable failure, and you are willing to give yourself the gift of the support and technology needed to be successful.
YOU WANT TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF
A Relationship Coach helps keep you honest with yourself, helps neutralize any tendency you may have to settle for less than you really want, is good for providing "reality checks" and being a sounding board.
YOU WANT TO BE PROACTIVE
A Relationship Coach helps you solve problems while they are still small.
YOU WANT TO GO BEYOND YOUR LIMITS
A Relationship Coach holds your highest vision for you beyond your fears and limitations, and helps you overcome your obstacles and challenges.

Five Stages of Relationship Coaching

While there are other developmental models of relationships, through the lens of a coach helping singles and couples with their relationship goals I found myself utilizing concepts and tools for five stages of relationship coaching, ranging from being single wanting a partner, to a committed couple seeking to co-create a fulfilling relationship together.

1. Readiness Coaching: Helps singles become clearer about "Who am I?"
    "What do I want?" and "How do I get what I want?" and addresses areas of
    their life that may interfere with their readiness for a committed relationship.     Coaching activities may include:

        *Relationship history

        *Personality assessment (traits, values, preferences, etc)

        *Identification of goals and action plans

        *Clarify Vision, Requirements, Needs, and Wants

        *Develop profile of Life Partner

        *Develop "Relationship Plan" to manifest/attract Life Partner

2. Attraction Coaching: Helping singles develop effective dating skills and     activities. Coaching activities may include:

        *Where and how to meet potential life partners

        *Becoming ready for a committed relationship

        *Effectively meeting people, developing networks, sorting and           screening

        *Staying on track with your Relationship Plan, asserting boundaries,           being "the chooser"
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3. Pre-Commitment Coaching: Helping new and not-yet-committed couples
    who are wondering "Is this 'The One'?" to be conscious and objective about
    the future of their relationship. Coaching activities may include:

         *Become clear about whether this relationship is right for you

         *Getting a reality check, staying on track with what you really want

         *Developing strategies for testing, decision-making

         *Addressing emotional and compatibility issues

4. Couples Coaching: Helping a committed couple co-create a functional Life     Partnership. Coaching activities may include:

         *Getting a committed relationship off to a good start

         *Effective communication and conflict resolution skills

         *Discovering and overcoming issues and obstacles around functional            needs, such as parenting, domestic responsibilities, finances, etc.

         *Identifying and negotiating mutual wants, needs, and goals

5. Bliss Coaching: Helping a committed couple with a functional relationship     deepen their emotional intimacy, trust, love, and connection to create the     emotionally fulfilling relationship they want. Coaching activities may include:

         *Increasing authentic expression of thoughts, feelings, wants, needs

         *Ownership of emotional reactivity

         *Increasing mutual support, trust, safety around emotional              vulnerabilities and intimacy

         *Developing skills, rituals, and practices for deepening emotional,            physical, and spiritual connection and fulfillment
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         The Difference Between Coaching and Therapy

                    What is Relationship Coaching?

  Relationship coaching is a professional client-focused service where an individual or couple   is assumed to be healthy, powerful, and able to achieve relationship goals with effective   support, information, and guidance.

                          General Differences Between Coaching And Therapy:

Therapy	Coaching
Assumes the client needs healing	Assumes the client is whole
Roots in medicine, psychiatry	Root in sports, business, person growth venues
Works with people to achieve self- understanding and emotional healing	Works to move people to a higher level of functioning
Focuses on feeling and events	Focuses on actions and the future
Explores the root of problems	Focuses on solving problems
Works to bring the unconscious into consciousness	Works with the conscious mind
Works for internal resolution of pain and to let go of old patterns	Works for external solutions to overcome barriers, learn new skills and implement effect choices

Adapted from Hayden and Whitworth, 1995

                         The Case for Relationship Coaching

         We have a powerful need and desire for coupling that drives us into and out
          of relationships. In recent times, we seem to have developed a "need" to be
          happy and decreasing tolerance for delayed gratification. When we are single,
          most of us want to be in a relationship. When we are in an unhappy relationship,
          most of us attempt to improve it and eventually leave if it doesn't get better.

          A generation or two ago, men and women dated, married, had families,
         and rarely divorced. Everyone seemed to know the rules and followed them.
         "Fulfillment" was not a priority and unhappiness was not cause for divorce.
        Then our society changed, the rules changed, and life and relationships
         became much more complex. We want to be happy, but we don't know how.
         We are traveling to a vague destination without a map or compass,
         and are not aware of what is causing us to be off track.

Here are some relevant facts that help make the case for relationship coaching:

Recently the US Census Bureau reported that for the first time in history, traditional marriage has ceased to be the preferred living arrangement for a majority of US households.
According to the report entitled, American Community Survey conducted in 2005 and released in August of this year, of the 111 million US households, 50.2 percent are single-parent and/or unmarried while 49.8 percent remain "traditional" households comprised of married couple (70% in 1970).
The marriage rate is decreasing, and is at its lowest in 30 years
The divorce rate has remained stable at or above 50% since 1988
Co-habitation is increasing, with a higher failure rate than marriage
The majority of first-born children are now conceived by, or born to, unmarried parents
Half of all children will spend some time in a single parent family
More than 85% of all adults marry at least once
The percentage of young adults who say that having a good marriage is extremely important to them is increasing (94% in one study)

These facts indicate to me that we continue to seek a fulfilling life partnership and are
not clear about how to do so. Helping people close the gap between where they are and where they want to be is the realm of professional coaching. Relationship Coaching may be the next evolution in promoting successful marriages and families in our culture.